![]() ![]() Logical consequences are far more effective. Putting kids in time out is neither painful nor memorable. So, based on that lesson, does putting kids in time out have an effective discipline result? I’d argue that it doesn’t. What keeps you from touching the stove? It’s mostly the fear of that painful and memorable consequence: getting burned. You’ve probably burned yourself on something at some point in your life. ![]() I bring up this story to illustrate my point: We don’t usually stop a behavior unless the consequences we face are logical, painful, and memorable. ![]() Now, I’m not advocating that we all get a giant bottle of soap and start dousing disobedient children. I never bit anyone again, mostly because I didn’t EVER again want to experience the same pain and taste the soap left lingering. She decided that if I was going to use my mouth to hurt someone, she would do something to keep my mouth from enjoying that activity. My teacher put soap on my tongue and stood me in the corner for an old-fashioned kids time out. I remember the sting on my tongue and the bitter taste. I actually don’t even remember why I bit the girl. OK, the truth is I don’t really remember how I felt. I mean, what would any self-respecting 4-year-old do? I had to defend my right to have that toy! Right? She took my toy and I didn’t like it, so I bit her. Wondering if kids time out really works? Here’s why I gave up time out and what I do instead-3 tips that will help when it’s time to discipline. ![]()
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